My mom is quite a lady. She raised four daughters while being a partner at a successful law firm, battling rheumatoid arthritis, having incredible style and maintaining seemingly boundless energy and enthusiasm. Yes, she’s pretty amazing. My appreciation for who she is and all she has accomplished has deepened since becoming a mother myself. There are so many reasons why I look up to her and try to emulate her. One of those seemingly small reasons is her nightly ritual of taking a bath. I don’t know if she has ever gone a day without one. It is her time to relax, unwind, and usually read a book. Growing up, we were always welcome to hang out and talk while she bathed, and we often did. It was such a nice time of togetherness and honestly such a part of her everyday routine that I never gave it much thought. But now, as a mother, I see it as such an important act of self-care – taking time out of the daily craziness to do something purely for her own relaxation and enjoyment. Her nightly ritual is such a great reminder that, as a mother, if you don’t fill your own cup by taking care of yourself you will have little left to give those around you.
Self-care is definitely something I need to work on – both my husband and my mom are on my case about it. As hard as it is to find the time, I am trying to work it into my daily schedule. And I know it won’t be to my benefit alone. I want to teach Rose through my own actions the importance of loving yourself and caring for yourself first and foremost. I think this lesson is especially important for girls, as women are more easily caught up in the cycle of nurturing, giving, and pleasing others. I also want her to see me not only as a mom but as a person with my own interests, hobbies, needs and wants – to show her that I didn’t lose myself when I became her mom. Mother’s Day is a great time to reflect on your own needs as a mom, reset, and come up with a plan to work self-care into your daily routine.
Below is a recipe for an indulgent coconut milk bath, inspired by my mom. It makes a great mother’s day gift to your mom, yourself or anyone who needs a little respite. Really, it’s a great anytime gift. You can find the coconut milk powder on Thrive Market or Amazon. I used this one. It gives the bath a lovely scent and beautiful creaminess. It is also great for your skin – the fatty acids from the coconut milk moisturize, while the minerals in the epsom salts relax and detoxify. The oat flour soothes and calms irritated skin. You can use any essential oils here, or none at all – the coconut milk already gives this soak a lovely aroma. I used this rose essential oil. The arrowroot powder serves as the vehicle for the essential oil and it also adds to the silkiness of the bath. Feel free to omit or substitute baking soda if you have none on hand. This recipe is adaptable. Place in a glass mason jar or any container you have on hand for a beautiful gift. Add around 1/2 cup to each bath just before you enter to soak in the full aromatherapeutic benefits.